Your Losses in Life

Hello Friends
Welcome to my blog for the this interesting
contest on losses

What have you lost in life that made you cry or feel distressed? Could be inanimate or animate. Narrate your experience

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Losing a relationship can be so frustrating with the heart break that accompanies it.Just like a joke this was my experience sometime ago with my childhood friend.
It was a relationship built by his mother loving me first to be a daughter in-law to her when i was a teenager
As at then we weren't interested in anything more than jokes,gossips,and play around the compound as neighbors we were, still in secondary school.

We grew into adults, started planning on building a home and not jokes anymore.On our planning journey his mother passed out one day on a hospital bed.
He traveled to South Africa after the burial, while he was there he decided on the actual time to come do the marital right as soon as he comes back then he informed my mum when he will visit for introduction

He came back as said, my mum told me she dreamt of him marrying a fair lady when he returned to Nigeria but he divorced after the marriage
When i was expecting all our discussions to manifest as he is back,i started seeing unnecessary busy him.On a good day his elder brother met my mum and told her that his brother brought someone else as a wife to be and he told him that his hands are not in it if am no longer in the picture.

He finally wedded another lady,spent almost all he had even sold his landed property which i had advised him not to, just for the wedding.
After a year,the marriage crashed leaving him with nothing to fall back on ,he became so sick and almost died.He saw me in an occasion and ran to me pleading for forgiveness,he narrated how his family members didn't attend his wedding because of me and how he suffered in the marriage within one year.

Did you blame yourself for the loss or were you meant to lose that thing?How did the losses affected you?

I didn't blame myself in anyway because i didn't just see any fault of mine that resulted to his betraying me.Breakup is not the worst thing that could happen to anyone, again every relationship must not end at the altar but it matters so much how it ends.

The loss affected so much infact it was a trauma to me because i thought what we agreed on was to stand considering the awareness of both families in the relationship.It discouraged from trusting any man,Love meant nothing to me as at then.

***Were you able to let bygones by bygone or are you still in pain for the loss?
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I don't have the habit of storing pains in my heart because i dislike negative energy so i let go of every pain.I consoled and picked up myself, moved on as though it never happened.
I might not be able to decided what will happen to me in the journey of life but i will decide what i make out of it.So i can't hurt myself for any reason,no matter what happens i must keep going.

What advice would you give the public who may have lost something or someone precious to them?

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My advice to anyone in pain over of any kind of loss is to cheer up and be strong.Look above the loss and keep your attention focused on your journey of life.Don't allow situations make you look like what you are passing through.Always remember that what's ahead is much better.
Nobody will know when you fall down if you dust yourself and keep going.No matter the loss dust yourself and drive on to your destination.

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