Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 91: Not what you think.

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There are times when things happen and before you could realize it's already late. It can be a mistake or something you don't mean to say. I have been in this situation and I would like you all to listen carefully and learn.

What do you understand by being "Misunderstood"?

Misunderstood simply means not to understand. It means that someone did not get you correctly.
For instance I sent my son to bring torch for me and he brought matches in this case he misunderstood what I sent him .

Have you found yourself in such a situation, if yes, kindly share with us your experience.

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Yes, there was this mischievous girl that was staying with me she likes bringing two people's head together. She made friend with someone close to me whose child picks Pocket. When I noticed that my girl was very close to that girl. I quietly told her to avoid that girl and probably stay away from her because of her character so that she will not corrupt her with her stealing habits, my girl did as if what I told her fall on a dear ear , I kept on observing two of them, until one day when I didn't see them together again I was happy that my advice was fruitful. One morning the girl's mother approached me angrily She asked me why I told my girl that her daughter is a chief wow! that was so embarrassing I felt like the ground should open let me fall inside. I tried to explain to the woman what I said and how I said it she seems not to understand. I allow it the matter to be. My girl changed my advice to something else and I was angry with her. I didn't directly call the girl a chief but because of her previous behaviors I didn't want her to install that into my girl that's was why I advised my girl ,but they misunderstood me that I called the girl a thief going to the extent of asking me if she stoled from me before.

How did you feel and how did you handle the misconception?

I felt betrayed by my girl because she is matured and I didn't expect her to tell the other girl that she is a thief and I said she should avoid her. Well the deed has been done I didn't go begging the girls mother, she was the one who withdraw the daughter from associating with my girl. I was only trying to protect my girl from the girl. I didn't mean any harm or to embarrass the girl and the mother.

Is there any advice you would love to give to your readers so they don't find themselves in your shoes.

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I would say we are human in some cases people may misinterpret us to suite them. But I want to assure you that in order avoid others misunderstanding your thoughts it's better to talk less especially to people who are not reasoning the way you are.

Know the type of people you can relate with , it's not everybody that likes advice, your good advice to someone may be misunderstood.

Everybody should learn to be accountable to their conversation with others. So that when they misunderstood you, you can defend yourself.

I'm inviting @mariami
@etette @pandora2010