Life Lessons Learned|| When Love Broke Me but Didn’t End Me
Hello Steemians,
First of all, I want to sincerely appreciate the host of this powerful contest, @sahmie, and the entire Steem4Nigeria community for giving us a space to share, reflect, and heal through our real-life experiences.
This contest came at the right time. It gave me the courage to tell a story I’ve buried for too long. A story of pain, love, and growth.
Thank you for making this platform a place where our voices matter.
Love:A Lesson I Never Expected to Learn This Way
Love should be peaceful. It should feel like home,a place of understanding communication and commitment.
But my story? My love experience turned into heartbreak, silence, abandonment, and deep emotional scars.
Juliet’s Idea of Love
I was raised in a family full of love, peace, unity, and care. We did everything together, we helped one another, and I grew up knowing the true meaning of love.
That’s why I love deeply. I carry my partner along in everything I do. But what happens when you’re the only one loving for two? When your loyalty is met with betrayal?
My Worst Love Experience
One day I was walking with two of my friends, laughing and sharing stories about relationships. A tall, handsome man overheard us joking about “broke boyfriends” and made a comment:
“The boy you feed today can feed you forever.”
I laughed without knowing he was watching me. He later got my number through a friend and called, reminding me of the laugh I didn’t know would change my life.
He said he wasn’t looking for a girlfriend, but a wife. He said he loved my smile and wanted to build a future with me. I believed him.
I accepted him, heart, soul, and body—thinking I had found my man, my forever.
Meeting the Beast in Human Form
Soon, I became pregnant. I was full of joy—I thought I would become a wife and a mother. But when I told him, his response broke me.
“Why did you let yourself get pregnant? I thought you were mature. You should know what to do after intimacy.”
Then came the worst part:
“Get rid of that thing in your womb.”
He called my baby “a thing.”
I refused. I told him I would never destroy my child. That day, he cut me off. Blocked my line. Vanished from my life. I was left alone—with my baby, my pain, and my tears.
The Day I Died Inside
17th February will forever be a painful memory.
That was the day I gave birth to my baby girl—beautiful and perfect. But she didn’t make it.
She stayed with me for less than 30 minutes before she died in my arms.
The shame, the sacrifice, the pain, the journey—all in vain.
I asked God, “Don’t I deserve love? Don’t I deserve to be a mother too?”
What I Learned from It All
Not everyone who speaks love understands love.
Real love is more than words : it’s responsibility, commitment, and sacrifice.
Never ignore red flags.
Don’t let someone else's failure to love make you feel unworthy.
I am enough. I deserve to be loved in return.
Advice to My Younger Self
“Guard your heart, Juliet. Love is beautiful, but not everyone deserves your all. Don’t rush. Don’t settle. Your love is a gift—share it with someone who values it, not someone who destroys it.”
This experience almost broke me. But I’m still standing.
I’ve cried, but I’ve also grown. I’ve lost, but I’ve also learned.
And most of all I’ve realized I still have love in me. One day, someone worthy will receive it.
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