Your Losses in Life

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What have you lost in life that made you cry or feel distressed? Could be inanimate or animate. Narrate your experience

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I have lost a very dear relative. We were so close that we shared a lot in common; we spoke every day despite our different locations. Losing her created a great hole not just in me but in the hearts of everyone close to her. She was a good person that is always there when you needed her. Her death made me question why we lose good people.

Her death came as shocking news to everyone; the day I was told of her death, was like a movie to me. It was the next day when I did not hear from her, that it sank deep into me that she was gone. I felt so bad that my heart could not carry it. Her death affected me greatly, both physically and emotionally. I grieved so much that it almost led to depression.

Did you blame5 yourself for the loss or were you meant to lose that thing? How did the losses affect you?

I have always seen people who have lost a loved one grieve, but I have never known how the pain feels. All I do is console them in my own way, sympathise with them, and support them, but I have never known how it affects them until I was in those same shoes.

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I do not blame myself for the loss because we all tried our best but it happened. The loss has affected me greatly because there are so many things we share that are no more there. I missed those listening ears that gave me the perfect advice on how to go about whatever difficulty I had. Not to talk of the happy talks we have on how our day went; in fact, there are lots of them, but it's well.

Were you able to let bygones be bygone or are you still in pain for the loss?

Everyone grieves differently and has their own way of coping with the pain of loss. I tried my best to let it go, but it has not been easy. I have worked on myself in many ways to let it be gone and close that gap. But whenever the memories come, I feel the pain of losing her. Although it is a bit fresh, I know with time, there will be a complete healing as all these require a gradual process.

What advice would you give the public who may have lost something or someone precious to them?

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My advice is to be strong, although it's not easy. As humans, we grieve and let it all out. Don't dwell in your grief for too long. After some time, try and distract yourself from the thought of your loss by engaging in some social activities, going out more and interacting with people and friends; you can change your environment if the environment gives you memories of your loss, whatever your hobbies are, engage more to it.

If it's a person you have lost, take a break from some things you do together. But in doing all these to distract yourself, allow yourself to process any emotions that come; it's a gradual process to get off the pain of a loss. Like I said earlier, everyone has their own individual way of coping with a loss; never compare yourself with any other person. Just take your time and follow the pace your body takes to heal, and you will be fine.

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