My Spec in a Man.
Greetings and welcome to my blog. Today we are talking about spec.
How frequently do you hear the word Spec? Can you briefly explain it to people who may be hearing it for the first time?
I hear the word spec every now and then. It’s not even only used in relationships nowadays. Most people use it to describe a range of things that catch their fancy and how they want things to be.
The word spec is used to typify the kind of quality someone is looking out for in a thing or a person. For example is I say this man is my spec, it simply means that the man possesses some qualities I like or some attributes that appeal to me.
Most times the word spec is used to qualify something physical. It points mostly towards physical characteristics in a person or thing.
What are some qualities your spec must possess?
Well, to be candid there are some qualities I like my spec to possess, most are inner qualities but I’d start from the outside to the inside.
I like cute guys frankly even though they seem to give more troubles in relationships than the ones that are not physically attractive.
You don't necessarily have to be too cute but I like it presentable. I want to be proud of you walking by your side and I don’t mean it in a demeaning way. It’s just what appeals to me.
I like tall guys too but not too tall and the reason being that I don’t have much height so someone to commensurate my lack is not bad to ask for.
I like my spec smart and intelligent and above all to be mentally matured. You should be able to engage meaningful in a good conversation have something to offer. I dont like shallow guys. I want the depth and connnectivity.
I like my spec to be a very sincere person. Most people are not sincere and straight forward. Lies and insincerity is a big turn off to me.
I don’t like it loud. You can be outgoing but not loud. They are two different things. Not being frugal is a turn off and above all, I want a spiritual man who is God fearing. This is basically the foundation of all the other things.
Do you think people should wait until they find their Spec before getting along or getting married to each other.?
No, I don’t think so. Most time we will never get all we want in one person. Sometimes one person may have the container but not the contents you want and some other times, they may have the container but lack some of the contents.
If you find someone who meets some of the basic criteria you want and you can flow along with that person, it’s ok to give the relationship a try. Nobody is perfect after all and you will never see all you want in one person.
As the relationship progresses, you both can begin to understand yourself and adjust in love to meet one another’s needs. It’s all about understanding and compromise.
What do you do when your Spec is not in love with you.
Hmmm. I’ve been here and so must tell you free of charge that this is not a state for anyone to be in. One of the worst thing that can happen to you in a relationship is to be inlove with someone who doesn’t feel the same way towards you.
In simple terms, you will see shege. Cos they will treat you like you have no value and future. I can’t even begin to mention my ordeals in the hands of this kind of situationship because it’s not a relationship.
Please run for your life. We all deserved to be loved and treated equally. If the person knows how you feel and doesn’t want to reciprocate, don’t force anything. Just dust yourself and exit the relationship. At the right time, you would find someone who would love you as you are meant to be loved.
Staying back would only lead to more hurt, pain, disappointment and even depression. Am talking from experience. Run my dear. Run. Last last you will be fine over time. Your mental sanity is a priority.
Thank you for reading through. May all find that special one someday. I ask @ngozi99, tykayo9, and @shadao4 to join the contest.
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