My Losses in Life

If I am to count all I’ve lost in life, my tears would flow endlessly. The beautiful thing about all the pains of having lost so much is that am bigger and better. I don’t look like what I’ve lost and am glad to share all of that experiences in this contest.

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What have you lost in life that made you cry or feel distressed? Could be inanimate or animate. Narrate your experience

I felt the pain of loosing someone very special at an early stage in life. At a time when I was just starting to understand or have a smidgen taste of what life was and life took away from me one of the most important things in my life.

I was just a jambite and had graduated from secondary school and was looking forward to getting into the university. Dad had been so encouraging with my school work and I was hoping he did stay put to see me through school but life had other plans.

In a what was an unexpected twist of events, dad was gone. Its was like a movie. One day he was there, the next day he was sickly and the next few days he was gone. We weren’t expecting such a huge loss at that time in our lives when we didn’t even know what to make out of our lives.

Distress was an understatement, we were thrown into the most difficult and chaotic season of our lives. From mum down to everyone in the family, it was a time of tears and mourning. The distress was so much especially because everything was gone. It was spent in taking care of him. We were left devastated and with nothing to fall back on and then we began a journey or desolation.

Did you blame yourself for the loss or were you meant to lose that thing? How did the losses affect you?

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Life happened. I don’t blame myself for loosing my dad, what could I have done. I was only sixteen. We did the best we can to safe his life but to no avail. The loss affected us in no small way.

It was a period of pain and uncertainty. He had to move from an average family to trying to make ends meet. Family and friends abandoned us. It wasn’t a funny season but we pulled through.

Were you able to let bygones be bygone or are you still in pain for the loss?

It’s been two decades dad left to be with the Lord. We know that he is in a better place hence it’s all in the past. Once in a while I remember him and would always think that things would have been different if he was still around.

The pains have waned and we are grateful to God for healing. I miss him sometimes but it’s all in the past now. Life goes on.

What advice would you give the public who may have lost something or someone precious to them?

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My advice is that it’s ok to mourn when you loose something or someone precious. Some persons live in Denial and that simply elongates the healing process. Be free to cry and express you emotions as that helps the pent up emotions heal faster.

Seek solace in the arms and shoulders of your loved ones. They can be family members or friends. Having your loved ones support you during the trying times can be a good way to recover faster.

Time heals all wounds, hence give it time. You can also pray about it and let God heal you from the pains of the painful situation you’ve been through. Life happens and we move on. At the end of it all, we come out better and stronger.

One last word, when you see someone mourning or in pains, lend a shoulder and a listening ear and don’t be too quick to judge. The person is already passing through a lot, solace is what’s needed not judgement.

Thanks for stopping by. I ask @pandoradiary, @beewrites and @ngozi996 to join the contest.