The Power of Repentance
Greetings distinguished lovers and readers, welcome to my blog as we will be diving into another area I love so much. You can address me as a writer for humanity. Today @lirvic as made us cross paths and we will be looking at "The Power of Repentance" and I will be addressing this issue under the following headings;
| A Decision I Regret | Has This Regret Influenced My Future Decisions? | Can Regret Affect Emotional Well-Being? |
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A Decision I Regret |
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Let me begin this section by highlighting that one of the constant things in life is regret. Regret is an emotion we all experience has humans at different points in time especially when we neglect doing what we should have done or went ahead to somewhat we should have avoided.
One of the biggest regrets I have encountered in life was not going into a given opportunity that would have changed my career for life. Some few years ago, I stumbled on a scholarship that completely aligned to my field interest and would have been a means of enabling me travel out of my comfort zone So as to further masters at Harvard University.
At this point, several thoughts came into my mind. I thought of my parents, siblings, and girlfriend. I never wanted any other person to take over my girlfriend from me so I made a myopic decision of letting go even when everyone except my girlfriend advised me not to stay back. I neglected that opportunity which was later given to a friend of mine Julius. I choose my girlfriend over my academics and I later I have realized that I did one of the worst mistakes of life.
The whole story became intense when Julius came back from Harvard University with his degree and at this first my proposed girl friend left me for her studies which was fully sponsored by her would be husband. Not just did I felt bad, I felt depressed and even thought of suicide.
The regret taught me series of lessons on the importance of focusing on ones dreams knowing too well that there is a time for everything in life. It was at this point that I stopped doubting the wisdom of the aged because, mom and dad warned me against this choice of clinging to my girlfriend at the expense of my future.
Has This Regret Influenced My Future Decisions? |
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If this was an audio question, I would shout the response to the top of my voice, because, it has played and is still playing significant roles in my choices till today. Therefore, Yes, this regret has played great roles in shaping and branding my choice of decisions and priorities. Today, instead of still chasing peanuts at the expense of gold, I put away all forms of distraction while ensuring that my goals are pursued with total dedication and commitment.
Moreso, this realizations has made me a fan of taking risk against my comfortability unlike when I preferred the comfort zone of my girlfriend over my academics. Today, I now assess situations more objectively and I remind myself that relationship and friendship would always seek those who have achieved greatly in life.
At this phase of my life, while I can't undo the mistake I have done or erase the regrets, I am well confident of not making the same or similar mistake again in this life or the life to come.
Can Regret Affect Emotional Well-Being? |
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Regret is one of the cancer eating deep and creating significant holes and sometimes life long impacts on the life of its victims. It's erupts a person's emotional and mental health. Though these impacts may differ depending on individuals, the overall effects could be seen on the area of self doubt, frustration and in a deeper case depression, and suicide.
Research reveals that constantly living on the regrets of the past traps one in a stagnated tunnel of zero progress, total guilt, and more regrets. In some cases, individuals may vow never to forgive themselves again thus giving room for more problems.
However, I don't subscribe to the believe that regrets are solely negative. This is because, some regrets if properly managed can engineer us towards becoming greater people in life. I can recall when having a "C" grade pushed me towards having parallel "A's". The most important key is to acknowledge the feelings, learn from it, and use it as I basis to strike higher rather than letting it drain and weigh us down.
Summarily, while I most time reflect on what would have become of me if I had utilize that opportunity, at the same time, I do not let my regrets define my worths instead, I use it as an avenue to strive higher with more courage and purpose.
Permit me to draw the curtains as I invite @alli001, @uduak01, @bossj23 and @solperez to share their views on regret.
THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING |
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