Judging from afar.
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Most times, we tend to judge people not because we know them or have heard anything about them, but because their physical appearance or their attitude will tell you they may be some kind of person.
Judging from afar can differ if it is positive or being judged negatively. In all, reality speaks better than assumption. I call judging from afar a mere "assumption."
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Have you judged someone wrongly before? Tell us the story |
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Yes, I have. There's a lady I knew sometimes back. Immediately I saw her, I read her from hair to toe, she dressed tattered and somehow unkempt. I was like this one was just "jaguda" (careless and rough person or someone with questionable behaviour).
I kept my distance from her because I never wanted her to be close to me so that she wouldn't do anything in the negative that may warrant people mentioning my name. But she never read my mind, but she kept coming close. Before I realised it, we became close. I got to know her well. I realised that she had been going through a lot. She explained her predicament to me and I understood her better and felt sorry for her situation.
It was there I got to know she was a very intelligent and smart person, always caring and ready to help. We became close and related well. For the time I knew her, she was really a great help and inspiration to me.
Do you think is right to judge someone maybe because of the appearance without knowing what the person is up to? |
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Although sometimes our judgement may seem right or maybe correct, it's not too alright to judge people from afar because we may not know their stories and why they behave or appear the way they do. Before judging a book from its cover, I think it's alright if we open the book and read to get a bit of information about the person.
I used to do that, and I'd long stopped it because of the experience with my friend whose story I've shared above.
What do you do when you realize that you were judging someone wrongly . |
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I used to feel a bit ashamed of myself for wrong assumptions and judgement. I used to feel like maybe I should apologise, but then, I may put myself in trouble. What I used to do is ask God for forgiveness, and then I would quickly adjust myself and accept the person, while I also told people (those close to me) my judgment and what I realised. This is to make them feel comfortable with the person in case they also have such negative feelings about them.
Do you think people's appearance matters? |
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If you want my sincere views on this, I'll say yes. There's a usual saying that "you're addressed the way you are dressed." I feel that we should dress well and appropriately in order not to be viewed in a negative way.
Last week I saw a picture of a teenager in my church on Facebook where she wore a crop top with hoodies looking like gangster. In my thoughts, I asked why do we dress the way we do? Is it to reflect our true personality, our worth or to be something or someone else? Honestly, it is good we dress well to addressed well.
I can't dress as a cultist or a gangster when I am not one, moderation is the key, and looking good is good business too.
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