Time heals everything

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They say time heals everything. Maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t. All I know is, some things take more than just time. Here’s me being real about that.

Does Time Really Heal Everything?

We've all heard the phrase—“Time heals everything.”
It rolls off the tongue like some ancient truth, one that generations before us have passed down in moments of grief, heartbreak, or disappointment. But the older I get, the more I question whether time truly heals, or if healing is something deeper, something we choose to do with the time we’re given.

1. Do I Think Time Heals Everything?

No, I don’t think time heals everything.
I think time creates space. And sometimes, that space allows us to breathe again, to think more clearly, to feel less raw. But healing is active, not passive. Time alone isn’t the balm; it’s what we do with that time that determines whether we truly heal or just bury the pain deeper.

There are wounds that, even after years, still sting when touched. Words that echo in quiet moments. Absences that feel just as heavy today as they did the first day. So no, I don’t believe time alone is the healer. It’s the process that matters—the conversations, the tears, the reflection, the forgiveness (of others and ourselves), and the courage to move forward.

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1. A Difficult Situation I’m Trying to Heal From

There was a time when I felt completely betrayed by someone I trusted deeply—a friend I considered family. It wasn’t a single event, but a slow unfolding of lies and broken promises. I kept giving chances, thinking maybe I was being too harsh, or maybe I misunderstood. But the truth was, I was holding on to a version of the person that no longer existed—or maybe never did.

For months, I blamed myself. I kept replaying everything, wondering what I could’ve done differently. I felt small. Used. And honestly, foolish. That pain sat in my chest like a rock.

I’m still healing from that. Some days I think I’m past it, and then something random—a memory, a smell, a song—pulls me right back. But what has changed is my reaction. Where I once felt hurt and anger, now I feel understanding. Not for them, but for myself. I was doing my best with the love I had. And that counts for something.

1. Is Time a Magic Solution?

I used to wish it was. I wanted to believe that all I had to do was wait long enough and the pain would dissolve like sugar in tea. But time isn’t a magic trick. It doesn’t erase; it dulls. It puts distance between you and the moment of impact. But that distance can only help if you're using it wisely.

What is magical, though, is what people can do with time when they choose healing. People who rise from grief. Who build new dreams after devastating losses. Who forgive, not because it’s easy, but because carrying hate is heavier than the hurt. That’s not magic from time—it’s magic from within.

1. How Can Words Heal a Person?

Words are everything. They’re how we make sense of the world. How we express love, and anger, and fear. A kind word in a dark moment can feel like a lifeline. A heartfelt apology can open a door that seemed forever locked. A simple “I see you” can ease years of invisibility.

I’ve been healed by words. A friend who listened without judgment. A stranger who complimented me on a day I felt invisible. A song lyric that echoed exactly what I couldn’t say out loud. And I’ve also used words to heal—writing journals full of my truth, letters I never sent, poetry that bled onto the page.

Sometimes, we need to say the words. Sometimes, we need to hear them. But they matter. Deeply.

1. Reflection on the Phrase:

“They always say that time changes things, but in reality you have to change them yourself.” – Andy Warhol

This quote hits hard because it’s real. Change doesn’t happen to us—it happens through us. Time just moves. It doesn’t make decisions. It doesn’t forgive. It doesn’t heal. It simply passes.

If we sit still, waiting for change, we’ll just grow older, not better. But when we take time and do something with it—seek therapy, talk to someone, write our pain, try again, let go, speak our truth—then change happens. Then healing begins.

I’ve learned this the long, hard way. I spent so much time waiting—for people to apologize, for the hurt to fade, for the “old me” to return. But none of that ever happened until I decided to stop waiting and start moving. Healing wasn’t in the days that passed—it was in the choices I made during those days.

Final Thoughts

So no, time doesn’t heal everything.
But we can.

We can take the broken pieces and craft something new. We can choose growth over bitterness, peace over resentment, and truth over silence. And in doing that, day by day, moment by moment, we become the healers.

Not because time did the work—but because we did.

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