Find Yourself Before You Find Others
A lot of people think that being alone means being unloved or being unwanted and rejected. But what they do not understand is that sometimes, being alone can actually be a blessing in disguise. Before you will be able to find someone who values you, you have to first find and value yourself. In fact, it is when you have discovered yourself that you will know where you are going to and the kind of relationship and friendship you will have. With the way the world is becoming noisy and distracting, you need to take a time to withdraw inwards to know who you really are.
At this point in time, a lot of people depend on others to define who they are. They seek for external validation in social media, friendship, relationships, etc. But the sincere truth is that no one can give you that sense of worth which you have not already seen in yourself. If you do not know who you are, you might want to settle for less, and even tolerate what you should not - like insults, disrespect, and you may even lose your identity in the process. But when you have embraced the solitude of self-reflection, and have discovered yourself, you will better understand your purpose, your dream, your strength, your weakness.
It is worthy to note that discovering yourself and walking in the consciousness of who you are is not pride. Take a lion for example; he already knows who his is, so you will not catch him eating grass in the jungle, or walking timidly instead of roaring and taking territory. If you know who you are, you will not need public validation to shine. Trust me, the people you may even be expecting validation from, especially in this social media age, may not even have the validation themselves. They may even be secretly admiring you and hoping that you are their friend. When you discover and build up yourself, people will look for you and not the other way round.
You can achieve a true discovery when you have done an In-depth reflection of yourself, and this is possible when you have separated from the crowd to be alone. In that moment of solitude, you will ask yourself certain questions like "who am I? What am I supposed to do? What makes me happy? What do I stand for?" All these questions help to build clarity about your life, and put you on the path of self-discovery. When you have discovered yourself, you will not depend on the noise from the crowd to tell you your worth or your value. Your value will speak for itself.
The powerful leaders and successful people of history were able to discover themselves. Some of them did not even have a fair start and some did not come from background of advantage, yet the were able to make it to the front in their field. They did so because they knew who they were, and what they can achieve. Great thinkers and innovators normally take a retreat from the crowd and think, then meditate. You cannot find the answers to the questions of life when you are always distracted by the noise of the crowd. This is what the people who have achieved greatness have discovered. They know that they can only influence the world when they have first understood themselves.
It may not be easy for someone to discover themselves, especially when a lot of things are trying to distract them and make them feel who they are not. In your journey to self-discovery, you may even face lonely moments, and may feel heavy at some points. But you have to remind yourself that the temporary process will lead to a stronger and better version of you. The more you grow in self-awareness through self-discovery, the more you are opened to welcome opportunities as they come. Not just opportunities, but the right friendships and relationships will also come your way. When you value yourself and know your worth, you will also know how to value others - like your friends, family, colleagues, etc, and they will also treat you with the same respect and value.
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