When it's Time to Say Goodbye in a Relationship
I have heard a lot about relationships and marriages which makes me even more scared of getting into one. While some relationships can be sweet and attractive, some others can make you want to run away from the situation entirely. Of all relationships, marriage is the most complicated form of all relationships, and while it could be a blessing in different forms, it can also be a thing that will consistently break your heart, and it can get to the point where you feel going your separate ways is the best bet, but before that, you should have exhausted all the available options at resolving the situation.
Personally, I do not subscribe to the school of thought of staying in marriage even when it is obvious that things are not working, as this has led to several cases of unhappiness, depression, and even the death of some. Rather I subscribe to the school of thought that, the union should be dissolved if both parties have tried to make things work and it seems not to work. As an individual, only you can tell when it's time to cut it off but these points can help you make up your mind about it once and for all.
Infidelity: Recovering from marital infidelity is hard, if one partner decides to jeopardizes the trust in the marriage for emotional or physical intimacy in another person, it is always difficult to rebuild the lost trust. Even if the confidence is rebuilt, the physiological harm can linger for a lifetime. For some people, cheating is a deal breaker, and they make the choice of ending the marriage on that ground, it is even worse when it is persistent.
Domestic abuse: Abuse of any sort is completely unacceptable, whether it is physical, emotional, psychological, or sexual. When abuse is present in a relationship/marriage, it is a clear indication that it is time for a divorce, there is nothing that should make you accept abuse from anyone. The choice to remain in an abusive relationship is a terrible choice filled with lack of self-esteem or value. There is no other form of connection that should make you jeopardize your personal well-being, whether it is physical, mental, or emotional.
Absence of respect; When one or both parties speak to one another in a derriogratery or intimidating manner, it may be an indication for you to go separate ways, or if there is no longer room for communication of any sort, or none of it ever yields a meaningful result.
Constant criticism: Having a partner who always look for every little opportunity to put you down can be mentally draining and bad for your health. If you have tried to speak with your partner about it and they seem not to be forthcoming, it is another reason why some people may just want to give up on the marriage entirely
Inability to compromise: A marriage that stands the test of time is one filled with compromises, if one of the partner gets to compromise all the time without the other person making an effort, then it would be terrible and fraustrating. It is even worse if both parties have vowed never to compromise, it is usually difficult for such marriages to function well.