How to Build a Happy Family
When I see a family that is happy, I admire them so much and pray that one day I will get one of my own. When talking about a happy family, I am not talking about those who are more concerned about looking happy on the outside than being genuinely happy. I do not care about what people think about me, so when I say I desire a happy one, I am talking about a genuinely happy one.
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As I have learned, some things make a happy family, the first is communication. A lot of people talk to each other but not a lot of them are communicating, to communicate is to pass a message, and to do so rightly, it must be done lovingly and patiently, especially when there are kids involved. With kids, the manner with which you communicate with them will determine if they are going to open up to you especially when it has to do with sensitive issues or not.
In communicating the right way, you must learn to be as open as possible, and encourage other members of the family to do the same, always listen with full attention, express your feelings in the most loving way possible. Communication, give space for laughter and joy constantly in the home.
Learning to spend quality time with family is important for building and maintaining happiness in a home. Doing things together and having fun in the process builds bonds and happiness in the home. Go on family outings, cook together, build some good family traditions, and always look for new ways you all can have fun together.
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Allowing other members of the family to get involved in the decision-making process will build bond and happiness in the long run. This is very important for children as well especially the ones who are getting advanced in age, staying with them and negotiating boundaries instead of imposing rules and regulations on them is important. Kids should also be allowed to speak up and share their emotions, this way the family will be happy.
A family should be there for one another, especially during difficult moments, there is more happiness in the home when family members know when things are down, and there is always a support system in their family they can turn to.
A strong mistake made by so many parents is their consistency in comparing children, in building a happy family, we must understand the unique trait of every child, and instead of condemning them, find ways to for them to become better with their weaknesses.
Those family you admire and think they are always happy also have their moments of disagreements and quarells too, so your family having quarells does not make it a bad one, in fact it is important that you disagree once in a while, just look for a way to simply come to an agreement and make up on bad times.
As a parent, you may be tempted to wear yourself out just to take care of your family, but if you want to maintain a happy home, you need to love and take care of yourself first. Understand that you also have needs just like your children, do not eliminate your own needs or hide them under the duvet.
The way parents show love to one another robs the health of the children and the eventual happiness of the family. If you are in a family where parents consistently fight and hurl words at each other, it is only expected that such homes lack genuine happiness.