"SLC-S24/W2 - Powerful Debate | Love vs Capability".

Today, in the second week of Steemit Challenge 24, I will be participating in @vishwara Madam's "SLC-S24/W2 - Powerful Debate | Love vs Capability". I hope everyone will like the article.

I will share a true story, this is from 2018. My friend loves a girl incredibly and that girl loves my girl too, but the importance of their relationship has always been given to the boy, at any time and in any situation, the boy has always had to accept everything because of her love. After a while, they got married, their family was going well, and at one point it was seen that the girl started demanding more than the boy could handle and deprived the boy of his freedom in everything and started doubting the boy for no reason, besides always speaking disrespectfully to the boy. The boy loves the girl so much that he starts accepting everything and does not say anything to the girl for fear of losing the girl, when the boy faces this problem for quite some time, at one point the boy starts reacting, due to which many cracks have formed between them. Now many cracks have formed between them and there is no attraction or importance towards the family. Everything that is there is going on personally and everyone is living their day with each other's personality.

Love keeps relationships healthy, it is true, but for me, the definition of love is very different. If life is very difficult and realistic for us, it is important to have respect, trust, understanding, trust in each other along with love. If this is maintained all the time, it is possible to keep the relationship alive, but we have to make sacrifices along with it. The world is full of good and bad for every person, and every person has personal freedom, but it is of course limited. Life is happy when two people make some important decisions in life together and understand each other before doing anything. Yes, the world is so beautiful because there is love, if there are these aspects along with love, the relationship will survive forever.

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I came to my friend's words, he did not tell his wife anything because he has a lot of love, respect, and a tendency to keep the relationship alive. Also, due to his constant suspicion, disrespect for his friend and his greed for his daughter's money, that relationship is now at an end. So for a relationship to be healthy and sustainable, it is important to have love, mutual respect, understanding, trust, and faith as well as be there for each other at crucial times.

Being shown as a perfect couple by outsiders is a formality, and in that relationship there is a hidden pain between the two that neither of them can tell anyone clearly, a lot of ego is working within themselves. Then this ego wins over love, which makes their understanding go bad and at some point, their relationship breaks down. Since they have no feelings for each other, the very name of love is seen with hatred between them and love itself becomes a false sentence for them.

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As a result of their holding on to this emotion and ego, their relationship is made difficult from the inside, but at first, they want to keep it a secret from everyone and make it clear that their relationship is okay. But to me, it is a small matter that they can solve if they want and they make a little sacrifice for their happiness and for the good, one surrenders and says sorry, and the relationship becomes the same as before.

For this, I think it is happening because there is less understanding between them and less trust in them.

A lot happens in a family life. Always trusting yourself and always understanding, respecting, giving time, and trusting each other is the biggest thing.

In my opinion, maintaining a relationship is a matter of patience. Success comes with patience, relationships in our life break due to small reasons, and it sometimes leads to a bad situation. So, small things should not be taken so seriously, these things should be accepted by both parties, as I have said before, you have to sacrifice in the relationship. Only then can peace be brought into the relationship.

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Also, like my friend, when the relationship comes to an end. My friend's wife doubts him, disrespects him and greed enters her, then this must have gone beyond personal will. Then you have to be patient with yourself for peace if even then it does not work or if it goes on like this day after day, if peace does not come, then the time will be wasted. I think it is better to leave him for peace instead of burning like this for a while. When something is not possible despite a lot of patience, it is better to pull yourself back from it and find a new path to peace.