"SLC-S24/W6 - Powerful Debate | Yes or no/ pros and cons".

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I am @saifuddinmahmud from Bangladesh. I am excited to join the steemit learning challenge. The challenge name is Powerful Debate - Yes or no/pros and cons. The challenge organised by honorable @alexanderpeace. I am going to join this challenge. I hope everyone will like my post.

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Do you believe in having expectations and setting boundaries for relationships? (NO)

Debate

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Rashed and Nahida have been married for almost 3 years. Rashed always wanted Nahida to stay within a certain boundary. He expected Nahida to take care of his children and manage the house. But Nahida always wanted her to do a job to make her future brighter. One day, Nahida received a job offer and the two of them argued about it.

Nahida: Rashed, I have great news. I got a job offer in a private company today!

Rashed: Job! You know I don't want you to go out and work.

Nahida: But why? I don't want to be a burden on you. I want to do something myself, I want to make my own identity.

Rashed: I don't think you are a burden. I am earning, the family is doing well. You don't need to work.

Nahida: Not just for the money, Rashed. I studied, I have dreams too. I often feel unfulfilled sitting at home all day.

Rashed: If you work, you won't be able to look after the house. Who will look after our children, our family?

Nahida: Can't we share the responsibilities together? If you help, I can handle both sides. And, you always call me 'my wife', never see me as 'a human being'.

Rashed: (Thinks silently for a moment) I don't want to hold you back, but I'm afraid - if you work, our relationship will change. Maybe you will change.

Nahida: I don't want to change, Rashed. I want our relationship to be deeper - in compromise, in cooperation. Not just in one-sided sacrifice.

Rashed: (Softly) Maybe I need to change my mindset. Let's sit together and see - how to manage time, responsibilities, everything.

Nahida: Thank you, Rashed. I knew you would understand.

"I don't believe in expectations and boundaries for relationships."

When there are no expectations, no one tries to control the other. The relationship becomes more open, where each person can exist in their own way.

When there are no boundaries, people are free to express their feelings, behaviors, and thoughts. By not expecting anything, every good deed becomes a wonderful gift that can make the relationship more enjoyable.

The "my needs, my rights" mentality is reduced, and relationships become more giving and tolerant. The idea of ​​not having expectations and boundaries is a kind of idealistic, free-spirited expression. However, in real life, all parties have needs, emotions, and limitations. So even if you follow this idea, it's still important to have clear communication, mutual respect, and self-awareness. There are some informal agreements or understandings about the relationship, such as respecting each other, committing to time, or setting limits on intimacy with someone else. Without boundaries, the structure of the relationship becomes much more open or free-spirited. As a result, both parties feel comfortable in it.

There are several benefits of not having limitations and expectations in a relationship. Especially for those who want to live their lives independently, independently, and spontaneously. I am discussing these benefits.

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• Personal freedom is maintained. You can live your own life. Your likes and dislikes, routines, work, friends are all under control. You don't have to lose yourself in a relationship.

• The pressure of responsibility is reduced
  You don't have to live your life to please someone. If the other party also thinks the same way, then the relationship is much lighter and freer.

• Clear and open communication is created. There are fewer misunderstandings because there are no expectations. People are revealed as they are and there is no need to act.

• You love for someone unconditionally. The question of what you can give me is absent. Love is selfless.

• The mental health of the relationship is good. There is less disappointment due to having low expectations. Without limitations, suspicion, anxiety, and possessiveness about the other party are reduced.

• If you are weak, even if you break up, there is no burden. If you have no expectations, separation is painful but not devastating.

• You can remain connected while maintaining your own identity. You follow your own path, yet someone is there by your side in parallel, without control.

My comment

Not having limitations and expectations does not mean that you are indifferent or irresponsible. Rather, you want a relationship where freedom and connection. Dependence rather than consent. Consciousness rather than pressure
can coexist together.

The difficulties that can arise if a relationship without limitations and expectations:

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• There is a possibility of increasing uncertainty and confusion.

• Emotional insecurity often arises. Without expectations, people often cannot feel needed.

• A one-sided relationship can develop. Even if you do not expect something, the other party may do so. As a result, the balance is lost.

• Irresponsibility can arise. If there are no boundaries, someone can leave suddenly, because there is no responsibility.

• It can be difficult to build intimacy. If there are no boundaries or expectations, that depth does not develop.

My comment

The absence of boundaries and expectations certainly keeps the relationship light and free,

But its price can be lack of depth, insecurity and one-sided emotions.

My opinion in light of the full discussion

A relationship is formed by emotions, respect, mutual understanding and love. In a relationship where these things are present, even if there are no expectations, expectations are met and even if there are no limitations, each other creates their boundaries. I am married, my wife is always able to meet my good and bad sides, health and illness, and my needs. This is why my expectations are met, so she does not have to force me to meet my different expectations. She tells me wherever she goes and tries to keep herself safe, so I do not need to set any restrictive boundaries for her. Even though she is my wife but she has her own life, she has her own freedom and entity. So I never want to confuse her by setting excessive expectations and limitations for her. This affects the relationship. So I believe that love, emotions, respect and mutual understanding are not important boundaries or expectations in a relationship.

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