"SLC-S24/W6 - Powerful Debate | Yes or no/ pros and cons".

Hi everyone!
I am @rubee2as1, am glad to be here for this debate with the topic:

Honesty is always the best policy in relationships! Yes

With Honesty, relationships are firmly established. When you are honest from the start of your relationship, you are setting a pattern on which the other person should follow suit.

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Craft a debate or a real life story to buttress you point.

There were two friends, Pius and Justin. Pius was married with three children and while Justin was contemplating marriage. They have been friends right from their school days.On a certain day, Pius let his friend, Justin knows about his plans to marry a second wife so as to be like his late father.
Justin listened until he finished narrating his late father's prowess. Then Justin answered, 'I thank you for telling me about your plans to get a second wife; hoping your work, wife and your children are fine.
Firstly, I would strongly advice you against marrying a second wife because the country's economic situation is bad. The personal income of most workers is hardly enough to feed three people in one week not to mention two wives and six children. You know you earn very little every month and that is why you are finding it extremely difficult to take proper care of your family. Your youngest child supposed to have started his primary education by now but you know he has not, because you cannot afford to sponsor him now. Even your second son supposed to be in the university with his senior brother, but you told me last time that you can only send him to study in the university when your oldest son has graduated. My friend, you have even started borrowing money just to make sure you eat at least once a day. Why then do you want to marry a second wife? If you do, that means most of your family members including your new wife will become beggars just because you made a wrong decision by marrying a second wife'. That was very honest and blunt on the part of Justin.
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Honesty; Pros and cons.

Here are some pros and cons of honesty;

Pros;

• you can never lie because it goes against your nature to lie. You will always find it much easier to tell the truth instead of lying or sugar-coating.

• People count on you for honest feedback
  You will be pretty much the first person your friends will go to look over for
  information, projects, and/or presentations. However, people can always count on you to give practical advice.

• You can get straight to the point of matter. You dont try to tip-toe around issues, and you can easily get to the bottom of issues and help find ways to correct them.

• Your life is much simpler because everything is more black and white, without any grey areas. You dont believe in them. You say what you mean and mean what you say, and if someone does not like it, then who cares?

Cons;

• Telling the truth becomes your first instinct.
  It will becomes nearly impossible to tell a simple lie. Something always gives it away and you are caught red-handed. You should never let anyone invite you to a surprise party, it will be ruined before they know it.

• Your honesty can be mistaken as rudiness and shady.
  Sometimes blunt honesty can be unwarranted; this is because your honesty can rub people the wrong way. You will say how you actually feel about something or someone and it can cause more harm than good.

• Your bluntness can often hurt people’s feelings
  Many times it is necessary to sugar coat things just a bit. Whether you need to break some bad news, or even tell your friend that the dress she is trying-on is not working for her, you might assume that by your honest opinion it may be helping, but it can actually hurt someone’s feelings.

• You will assume everyone else is telling the truth.This is not to say you are naive or gullible. You always believe that because you are honest with everyone else, everyone should also do the same with you. But that doesn’t work that way.

What can I say, honesty is always the best policy in relationships. You also dont complicate your life with beating around the bush. You get straight to the point and you dont waste anyone' else or your time. You just be Honest.

I am inviting @dequeen, @josepha and @okere-blessing.