"SLC-S24/W6 - Powerful Debate | Yes or no/ pros and cons"

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"Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity - and if you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough."

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Honesty is always the best policy in relationships! Yes.

Jena was a very lovely and promising young lady with lots of ambition. She had engaged in several relationships that failed but she kept asking herself if she would ever find someone who wouldn't judge her past and be true with her in love.

It's weekend and there's no way we are staying home all day, Jena's friend Emily said. Let' go out and who knows, you might meet Mr. Right. Jena wasn't feeling anyone would want her because she a past that kept hunting her but, she went out with her friend and while she was alone drinking, she heard a soft and lovely voice from behind...

"Hi, may I join you? She was surprised to see Philip a tall, charming, good looking man standing next to her, Jena was still lost in thoughts with her mouth opened as she kept stirring at the young man. "Well, if you don't want I could just go sit somewhere else". "Oh no, forgive me Jena said, you can join me afterall I'm all alone here.

They got talking all night and had shared a lot of their past together without knowing it. But the next day, they met at a coffee shop where they had to discuss the way forward because Philip already made his intentions known to Jena. Now, Jena was scared to discuss her past with him because she was scared he would leave her but she went ahead to do that and was never judged by Philip.

Philip also had his own terrible past, worst than Jena's and after they had done the confessions, they respected each others past and decided to start on a clean slate, building a strong relationship of honesty, trust, love and communication. These helped them build a solid foundation in their relationship and they relied on each other for support.

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I don't see any reason why partners should live a life of lie, they should both be transparent to each other no matter what happens. Honesty builds trust and this is a way for partners to be predictable in their relationship which makes them feel safe and secured.

Honesty prevents misunderstanding and misinterpretation of things. It helps ascertain clarity at once. I have a cousin who recently got married and now have a baby, but she suddenly started having problems with the mom in-law because she wasn't honest from the begining, even the husband was shocked when they heard that she was not in the university as she claimed before marriage. That means she covered the truth because she wants to get married forgetting the repercussions at the end.

Honesty enhances vulnerability in a relationship. Jena was a wise lady, but you know at first, she didn't want to share her past so that Philip won't leave her, but on a second thought, she believes that honesty brings out the best in us, it gives us a deeper understanding of our partner and so she decided to spil it out and luckily for her Philip was open to listen and to share.

Honesty in a relationship enhances communication which of course is the bedrock of every surviving relationship. Communication give room to express your need and concerns. Just like I said earlier, "good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity."

In conclusion, a relationship based on honesty is essentially a journey where both people are open, genuine, and clear with one another. This creates a strong base of trust and understanding that can endure difficulties and result in a meaningful and lasting connection.

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Honesty; Pros and cons

Pros

• Builds Trust and Strengthen Bonds: Any relationship without trust is certainly not a relationship but two people who come together to form a party, maybe for campaign. Honesty is the foundation to which trust is laid in a relationship which shows transparency. It helps partners stay safe and secured in their relationship.

• Promote Accountability: Being honest makes one accountable for their actions. You don't have to blame other for your actions because you chose to protect your integrity. Honesty give room for accountability.

• It Reduces Stress: When honesty is in place, you don't have to always fight, quarrel, or get involved in an unnecessary conflicts, you solve issues directly and easily, that way you stay tress-free.

Cons

• Being honest can cause discomfort and hurt depending on the context. Sometimes it's difficult to deliver and when delivered could hurt someone's feelings.

• Honesty maybe difficult to accept especially when it's uncomfortable. The truth hurts so they say and so accepting something that are the truth may ruin us.

• It gives people power to keep running away from accountability of their actions. They will always look for who should take it up.

• Honesty may bring punishment for any wrong doing.

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