"SLC-S24/W5 - Thoughts and reflections

Sharon was around 16 years of age but her parents wanted her to get a job to support the family because they weren't buoyant enough. She searched for a nanny job but couldn't get one but she never gave up, she believed she would get soon.

One day, "The Davidsons" moved to their area, a young handsome looking man with his wife and three children. His older son was 12, the daughter was 9 and the last baby could barely sit on her own. Sharon got excited about this family and wished they would need a nanny soon.

She never applied for the nanny job, but it came looking for her. While she was on her way back from her morning jog, she met Mr David who stopped her and asked if she could come work for him as a nanny, sharon was excited because she had wished for it and she said yes.

She got home and shared the news to her parents who told her to please start up immediately. Sharon started working the next week and her first day was sweet. She blended well with the kids and they took her as their big sister. Mr David who was always locked up in his office never noticed how familiar her nanny and her children had become.

On a thursday morning, sharon was coming in whild Mr David was coming towards same direction, but he brushed her and when she turned, he gave her a wink and sharon was not comfortable with that. She continued her work diligently but the man kept coming close to her and making advances. She couldn't shout or speak up but kept quit thinking she could handle him all by herself.

After some months has passed, Sharon was in the house one afternoon with the last baby and as she was about putting him to sleep, Mr David grabbed her waist and dragged her to his room. She tried to shout but he stopped her and when she tried to escape, he threatened her, sharon was rapped violently by Mr David.

Sharon did not stay silent for a long time but when the matter was brought up, Mr David used his influence to make the matter die and it was never found in records. He was a famous and wealthy man, Sharon was deeply hurt as she had no one to speak for her.

¿Should we experience life in order to mature our character?

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A life without experience is like a child who has never been to the four-walls of a school. Experience is like a base, foundation where we learn and unlearn that is why it is the best teacher.

Someone who has no experience would always play out a naive act than someone with experience. Imagine if Sharon had experienced life in that dimension, she would know what Mr David was planning and she wouldn't have been left alone in the house with just him, but because she had no experience, she was free and never told anyone when he started making advances.

Experience can only teach us what we do not know, or what we think we know. It develops our mental state and gives us ideas on how to handle issues. Maturity comes when we certainly have series of experiences.

¿How can we tell when someone is just trying to take advantage of our good heart?

It is most definitely difficult to dictate when someone is trying to take advantage of your good heart, but there are some signs to it...

• Lack of favour in return; When you are always the one giving, buying, spending and they never reciprocate, it is dangerous. When their requests are rejected by you, they pick offense, it means they have seen your good heart and wants to keep taking advantage of it.

• No interest in things that concerns you; When all they talk about is themselves, then you are not important. They don't see your discussions as important or see any need to help you or even care about your feelings, that is taking advantage of your good heart.

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• Emotional blackmail; Even when they are not your responsibility, they make you feel responsible for their problems and even blame you for not helping them when needed. Always blaming you for their own fault.

What advice would you give to someone currently experiencing this situation?

It's not bad to help people because it's in you, but when your good heart is being taken advantage of, you have to stop.

Stop and speak up because you are not a fool. You can only play a fool for a while but you are not a fool so you take the bull by the horn and give them back their coin.

I have been in this situation countless times but the moment I discovered what was playing, I stopped and immediately I was tagged a bad person. I didn't care because it never reduced me. See, once you show people that you also know what they know, they become angry at you, they would always want you to keep being the fool while they play smart with you.

But it's time to speak up. Take charge of your life and set your boundaries. Don't take what you don't want and don't accommodate what you can't tolerate.

I invite @eliany @pandora2010 @nancy0