SLC-S24/W1 - Tangled Emotion | The Powerful Conversation".

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We all encounter moments that overwhelm us with feelings. You might feel angry, upset, or helpless, or you have so many questions running through your mind like; why does it seem like the world is moving forward while you feel left behind? Why do you have to be tormented because of what others did or has done.

You go to sleep burdened by these negative feelings, feeling uneasy. You wake up at night, checking the clock, wondering when this will be over. When will you see the light at the end of the tunnel? Does anyone understand your pain? Can anyone hear your struggles in this dark time?

That is Tangled Emotions

Maria and David were once deeply in love, but now they don't speak. Maria reminisces about their loving moments and feels a deep emptiness, as if her heart is breaking. David, on the other hand, carefully chooses his words to avoid more conflict. One evening, Maria felt a strong desire to reconcile and approached David, saying, 'I miss our laughter and I miss you.'

David was taken aback and just stared at her. Maria continued, 'Did you think I wouldn't notice your silence? I asked you before, and you said everything was fine. I found out weeks ago that you have a family in Australia.' David was still shocked and stammered, admitting it was true but he didn't expect her to find out so soon. Maria expressed her disappointment, saying, 'Not telling me was a huge mistake; I would have supported you instead of feeling betrayed.'

David apologized, taking responsibility for everything, explaining he only learned about the pregnancy when she was sick. Maria questioned what would have happened if his silence had destroyed their relationship, but ultimately she forgave him, saying, 'You are my husband, and I miss you.' David expressed his regret for hurting her.

In your opinion, who showed greater emotional maturity during the conversation, and what made you feel that way? Was it honest, self-control, empathy, or something else. (1.5 Mark)

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I would say that both parties showed maturity because when the silence was still on, David chose his words and didn't want the trouble to escalate. Maria on the other hand pulled the trigger by breaking the silence.

Honesty played a greater role, I think it was time for the truth to be told. Self- control was also there, I mean the couple showed all through.

Do you believe that emotional cheating can cause as much or even deeper damage than physical cheating? Where do you think the true betrayal begins: in the heart or the body? (1 Mark)

Anything of the heart is very critical and dangerous. Emotional cheating is deeper than the physical cheating as it often involves a betrayal of trust and intimacy that can be harder to heal from.

Trust and intimacy are the core foundation of a relationship and when these are not in place, the relationship collapse.

Feeling disconnected starts from when a partner finds solace elsewhere, the other party feels empty and alone which could lead to emotional trauma.

What are some subtle yet powerful signs that emotional distance is growing between partners? Can you spot these red flags before it’s too late? (1 Mark)

Lack of Intimacy: This is not ideally sex, it's about closeness, care and all that matters. When partners are no longer close that is when lack of intimacy sets in. The distance becomes a problem.

Less communication: This is the bedrock of every relationship. No relationship survives without communication. If partners understand the significance of communication their won't be any room for less communication.

Unresolved conflict: When disagreement are left unresolved, it can lead to one partner withdrawing emotionally and physically.

Not praying together: A family that prays together stays together and a family that prays separately works separately.

Can love truly survive a deep betrayal? What do you really need to rebuild and reconnect with broken trust? (1 Mark)

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When love exists, forgiveness is essential regardless of betrayal, as love supports, hopes, believes, and endures everything without end. If you truly love someone, you must also be able to forgive, including forgiving yourself and releasing any self-blame.

If you were a marriage consultant, What advice would you give to couples in the sheath of heart break and healing?? Speak from wisdom, experience, or even personal pain. (1.5 Marks)

I don't support divorce because I dislike broken homes. First, I would hear both sides of the story. I would check if the couple understands each other and how they communicate. This information would guide me in giving them advice.

Good communication is essential for a successful marriage. It reduces distrust, fights, and emotional pain. When you communicate well, there is more peace in the relationship.

Spending time together is important. Set aside time for your partner, enjoy weekends out, or take a vacation without the kids. Regularly surprise each other with gifts. They don't have to be expensive; even a small treat shows you care.

Reach out to each other during the day; it helps build your connection. Always keep each other in your prayers.

I will invite @eliany @mariami @pandora2010