SLC-S24/W2 - Powerful Debate | Love vs Capability
Hello 👋 steemit family! I hope all the members will be enjoying their life by the grace of Allah Almighty. Welcome to my post, today I will tell you what I think about this topic, which is Can a marriage succeed without Love, just based on loyalty, respect and trust.
Can a marriage succeed without love, even if both partners are compatible and have great mutual understanding?
Before we go deep into the topic, let's us discuss these four elements of life Love, Respect, Loyalty and Trust. So what exactly is Love? In my opinion, Love is just a feeling that we develop for other people who are playing important roles in our lives. When really somebody is in love he or she forgets everything and just thinks of each other. Spending their all life with someone he/she love and it is the best feeling in life. Talking about personal experience in love I mostly got sad in my life just to save my love and my feelings but if someone is not in your destiny it is very difficult for you to make them stay together forever.
Can Love even exist without the other three? I think yes it can. There is so much power in love it is the full powerful and strong thing of anyone's life. For example, I love my brother even I don't trust him with my things, but I respect him very much and I love him a lot. Because he is my brother and he understands me very well, when I got upset by something, he comes to me and always tries to make my mood normal forget the thing that why I am sad or upset. Mostly, he offers me to go outside with him to eat my favourite foods mainly fast food because I am a fast food lover. From this, I get normal that's why I love my brother and it is really a blessing for me.
There is another example, let us talk about my sister I love her a lot but in some cases I prefer my best friend over her, ahmm ahmm does that make me disloyal to my sister LoL she does the same. So I think Love is not always dependent on trust, respect and loyalty. Now talking about whether a marriage can stand a chance if there is no Love and only Respect and Trust between two individuals. Well I have seen marriages being broken where there was a lot of Love and Romance between the couple but no respect.
On the other hand, I have seen couples living together for almost 30-40-50 years and never heard anyone of them telling the other I love you or something but there is a lot of respect which can be easily seen. This might not be the case for everyone as compatibility is also a very very important factor. But yes a marriage can succeed just on the basis of Respect, Loyalty and Trust. But wait a minute, is it possible for 2 people to Respect each other and have complete trust in one another and also being very loyal to their partners and not be in Love?
No, this is not possible, there can be a possibility that they don't mention that they love each other but there will be signs and gestures of Love. Love will always find a way and make a place for itself in their lives. A marriage can definitely succeed on the basis of Respect, Loyalty and Trust, but there is no chance of Love making a place after these three are already there. People can have a different opinion based on their experiences and as for me, this is what I think and what I've seen and I haven't experienced it personally. I wish all the married people out there a very happy married life. May there be Love, Respect, Loyalty and Trust between all husbands and their wives, Ameen.
- What are your thoughts about being seen as the "perfect couple" for outsiders but truly having no feelings for each other and having a huge emotional distance?
The "Perfect Couple" : A Beautiful Lie
I have seen some cases in which couples are acting in front of the world that everything is going well but in real it is not. Praising each other in public but barely speaking at home. Society claps for the image, but no one hears the silence between two people sharing a life but not a heartbeat. This is not a good thing in my opinion, because having a huge emotional distance can destroy your relationship at anytime. So they must try that resolve the things and make everything back to track. The problems they are facing or the huge distance an be overcome by their efforts for each other.
- Is it wiser to hold on to peace or to chase what sets the heart on fire?
Holding On vs. Chasing On: The Real Question
So in this case, we have two options that we can hold on to peace or we can chase what sets the heart on fire. It depends on the condition and circumstances, the answer in my opinion is that we must chase down the cause of heartburn. Because sometimes it is better to find the cause and try to resolve it neither just make peace. The main thing that mostly matters in a relationship is the efforts by both sides who are giving how much to save his/her relationship. And every problem must have a solution, just we have to find it....🥰🥀
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Thank you for reading my post. May Allah protects us all.
Best Regards,
Munaza Habib