SLC-S24/W6 - Powerful Debate | Yes or no/ pros and cons

First of all, I would like to thank the organizers of this debate. Every topic discussed here is very important, but I have chosen Honesty is the Best Policy in a Relationship from here. Honesty is necessary in every relationship. Honesty comes out depending on the importance and love of each other. If your importance and love for your life partner is less, there will naturally be a lack of honesty. But if your infinite love and importance for your beloved person is more, then you will be bound by a limitation on him and for him and your honesty towards him will always be constant.

Honesty is Always the Best Policy in any Relationships! Sure it will be Yes

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Honesty makes people’s lives better, improves their personality and beautifies the atmosphere around them. Being honest benefits both someone’s inner self and the community. It is extremely important for a relationship to be honest. Truthfulness helps the bond in a relationship and on the other hand, being dishonest can destroy it.

Let us explain this using an example. Assume, Sobuz and Ratri are in a relationship that enjoy great rapport with each other. Everything in their lives is shared by the couple. Sobuz once removes a crucial message from his phone while Ratri is not notified. After Sobuz tells him, Ratri feels very hurt and stops trusting him. The incident causes a large divide between the two friends.

The way Sobuz lies causes their relationship to break apart here. Perhaps their relationship would not have suffered this destruction if Sobuz was truthful and told Ratri everything. By this example, we can see that dishonesty ends the relationship.

"Mahatma Gandhi spoke about truthfulness, stating that doing what is right could be tough, but it is always the right thing to do" . So, trust and meaningful relationships depend on speaking honestly.

Honesty is a fundamental virtue in human character, essential for a fulfilling life and a thriving society. It is a quality that encompasses truthfulness, integrity, and trustworthiness. The sources emphasize that honesty is not merely about avoiding lies but also about aligning one's actions, words, and intentions with truth and righteousness.

In Islam, honesty holds a paramount position. The Quran and Hadith (sayings and actions of the Prophet Muhammad (S)) highlight its significance, portraying it as a cornerstone of faith and a path to spiritual and worldly success.

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Just as honesty and integrity reveal the good side of a person, dishonesty and dishonesty reveal the bad side. You have to choose between good and bad, which one you are interested in. There are specific examples of good and bad in all cases. The advantages and disadvantages of honesty in relationships are analyzed below.

PROS (Advantages) of Honesty in Relationships

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A relationship can only be healthy if people are honest, since this brings about many benefits for them and their partnership. A big advantage is the increase in trust. Honesty between partners allows them to feel safe which makes them feel more comfortable opening up emotionally and connecting better. Having trust lets individuals feel secure, valued and loved which forms the basis of a lasting relationship.

Moreover, being honest helps people communicate clearly with each other. Being truthful allows each person to freely talk about their needs and emotions without worry about how their partner will react. Sharing ideas and feelings openly helps solve conflicts, prevents misinterpretations and encourages couples to learn more about each other. Studies have found that being honest is connected to better satisfaction with both yourself and your relationships.

Honesty also helps people be healthier in their personal lives and in their relationships. Different studies indicate that honesty in relationships improves how both partners feel and what they experience in their relationship. It also motivates people to be themselves which can be freeing and make their relationship better. With honesty, partners usually feel less stressed since they don’t have to question what the other person is doing.

CONS (Disadvantages) of Honesty in Relationships

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Although being honest is usually seen as very important in relationships, we should be aware of its possible drawbacks. There is a risk that honesty may upset a partner if the comments are not sensitive. Honesty gone too far or a lack of politeness can cause more problems than needed, threatening the peace and comfort in the relationship. When people are criticized or judged all the time, it becomes tough for emotional closeness and loving intimacy. There are times when telling everything can damage the trust in a relationship, making the other party unsure about what is truly happening. Also, there are times like when someone is having a hard breakup, when being very honest might not be helpful; a better approach is often to just be comforting. You have to be sensitive and honest at the same time to keep your sincerity from being a negative thing.

Conclusion Thoughts

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It’s necessary to be honest, though we should also expect consequences caused by our information. Discretionary honesty lets managers modify the information they share, since some things don’t have to be shared. The whole idea is to grow trust and intimacy, not to harm the relationship.

When we are truthful in our relationships and in life, happiness, stronger ties and a satisfying journey come naturally. Having the courage, being aware of yourself and communicating honestly with respect are necessary for couples.

"Honesty is an absolute must for healthy relationships"

Thanks to everyone here is an invitation @jyoti-thelight, @abdul-rakib , @fjjrg

Best regards from Mostofa Jaman