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Do you think being used by others allows you to mature in character and learn?

There are many simple people living in our society who are most of the time used by other people, of course I think that being used by someone else helps us to develop our character and we can learn a lot, being used by someone else is much more difficult but if we look deeply then we will understand that being used by someone else becomes an invaluable lesson to build our character in life.

When we are used by someone else then we can recognize people very well, we can then learn who takes advantage of our simplicity and only uses us and tries to harm us, they only come to us to achieve their own interests when they no longer get any benefit from us or can no longer use us then they are no longer by our side, we also learn that being a good person does not mean giving your best but in some cases you can learn not to be present.

When someone else uses us, we know our position better, self-esteem is built, then we feel pain and strength is created from that pain, when someone else does not value us but only uses us, then we understand how much we are worth, it is a great means for building our character, along with that we can learn more, where to forgive and where to protect ourselves.

Should we experience life in order to mature our character?

Of course, to mature our character, we should gain life experience, because we gain knowledge from books, the more books we read, the more knowledge we will gain, but gaining this knowledge will not mature our character, life experience is much more necessary to mature our character, the more we spend our life, the more different things come before us and we can mature our character by gaining experience from them.

The more situations we encounter in life, the more our life experience will come, and the more experience we get, the more our life character will mature, in different situations of our life, we are victims of mistakes, suffering, joy, betrayal, sympathy and through these, we help to build tolerance, prudence, confidence within us, and through these our character starts to mature.

How can we tell when someone is just trying to take advantage of our good heart?

It is very difficult to understand whether someone is taking advantage of our good heart at first, it is not easy to understand, but if we pay attention to some things, we can easily understand whether someone is taking advantage of our good heart, if we observe very well, we can understand that someone is trying to take advantage of our good heart, when we understand that, we can connect ourselves and protect ourselves from a lot of harm.

The main way to understand whether someone is trying to take advantage of our good heart is that that person comes to us only to achieve his own interests, he repeatedly tries to take from us and never gives us anything, they always try to gain benefits from us, they never do benefits but when they achieve their own interests, they move away from us.

Those who try to take advantage of our good hearts only come to us for their own needs and leave us when their needs are over. They never give importance to our words. They always take our words and our love lightly. They always try to pin any mistakes on us. They never see their own mistakes and try to admit their own mistakes.

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Share a true story of your own or a close one about a similar situation.

I am sharing a real incident with you regarding this, my younger aunt's son is named Roni, he went abroad with a lot of hard work to earn money, after going abroad he earned a lot of money, he constantly sent that money to his sister's husband's name, as long as he was abroad he sent money regularly only to his sister's husband's name, I sent this money from abroad for ten years.

Ten years later when he returned to the country, his sister's son-in-law treated him very badly, even threatened him in various ways, did not give him any account of his money, when he went to ask for the account of the money, he tried to keep him away through various means, at one time he mentally damaged him in the name of treatment, now my younger aunt's son is wandering around like a madman, when he gets treatment he gets better, after a few days he becomes like before again.

Share a reflection of your own or a close one about a situation where you see someone taking advantage of you without compassion to achieve their personal goals.

In the incident I shared above, I saw a reflection of this situation, my brother used to send all his money from abroad to his sister's husband, but after he returned from abroad, the money was not returned to him, but he was subjected to various tortures and made into a mental patient. There is no dearth of such people in our society. Here, the person took advantage of his simplicity without any sympathy to achieve his personal goals.

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What advice would you give to someone currently experiencing this situation?

My advice to the person currently facing this situation is that the person who is being victimized by this situation should understand his own worth, because no one will determine his worth, if he learns to value himself then no one else will be able to use him, he can be a good person but cannot be a fool, he can help gold but there needs to be a limit to that, he should never help anyone excessively, of course he should help other people but it should not be by depriving himself.

He must learn to say no, no one can be cheated, rather he should try to save himself, and he should always save himself, if someone is a victim of this situation, it means that his life does not end here, but rather it will help him to become wiser to improve in life and create experience to make his future strong.