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Boundaries and expectations

Since I have a family-oriented nature and have lived in a joint family system for the past 20 years, I have picked the first task to justify. I can therefore better discuss these topics based on my personal experience as a homemaker and mother of three children.

However, we must not overlook the drawbacks of having expectations and boundaries in a relationship, which include the potential for tension and stress. When expectations are not fulfilledt, feelings of anger and disappointment may accure. Boundaries violations can cause a relationship to become untrusting, which can result in arguments and altercations.

Do you believe in having expectations and setting boundaries in a relationship? Yes or no

Yes, I believe setting boundaries and expectations in a relationship can strengthen the relationship, help both partners grow personally, and help maintain a healthy relationship. Boundaries and expectations define how to treat each other, thus fostering respect and trust. Misunderstandings and irritation are decreased when expectations and boundaries are discussed properly.

At the same time, it helps us to be clear about one's needs and limitations and to reveal our own state. Therefore, establishing limits and expectations in a relationship is crucial.

Craft a debate or a real life story to buttress you point.

There were two lions in a forest, and they were hunting in the same forest for fulfil their hungry. Because of this, the two lions had a fight from time to time. One day, both of them decided that they could settle this by talking and accordingly, both of them arranged a meeting one day.

Then both of them made an agreement. According to that agreement, both of the lions had the right to hunt, but they could manage their separate territory and each other should not violate its boundary.

"I will not cross your boundary, and you should not enter my boundary. We can fullfil our hunger with any animal for hunt that is available to us within that decidedspace". Accordingly, both of them created a boundary. From that, both of them did not fight and at the same time, both of them spent time happily together from time to time. Through this, both of them got equal food and happiness and there were no enemies.

Here, mensioned the lions are the egos of both in a relationship. To resolve that ego, it is better for us to set boundaries. If we do not cross that boundary, there will be no problems for both of us, and maintain the long;lasting relationship.

Elaborate on the PROS (advantages) and CONS (disadvantages) of expectations and setting or not setting boundaries in relationships

Pro's of setting boundaries and expectations in marriage:

Personal growth:

Boundaries help couples maintain their individual identities, pursue their own interests, and grow both individually and together.

Relationship development:

Openly talking about expectations improves mutual understanding. A clear understanding of needs and wants helps reduce conflict and improve the relationship.

Conflict reduction:

Clear boundaries and expectations help avoid unnecessary conflict and misunderstandings.
Sense of security:
Couples who have clear expectations and boundaries feel safer and more secure in their feelings for one another.

Balance:

Setting limits is crucial to keeping work and personal life in harmony. It assists both spouses in meeting their other demands as well as their personal work.
Therefore, in marriage, openly talking about boundaries and expectations is important for a healthy and happy relationship for both.

Con's of setting boundaries and expectations in marriage:

Disappointment:

When something does not go as one expects, one can be disappointed.

Anger:

When expectations are not met, one can be angry, which can worsen the relationship.

Lack of trust:

Violating boundaries can lead to a loss of trust in each other.

Relationship breakdown:

When boundaries and expectations are too high, it can also lead to a breakup.

Unhappiness:

This may be one of the main reasons why a marriage is unhappy.Lack of freedom:
When boundaries are too high, one can lack freedom.

At the conclusion of this debate I think Boundaries and expectations are necessary in a relationship to a certain extent, but when it is too much, it can be detrimental to the relationship.

I would like to invite my Steemit friends
@solaymann
@sualeha
and @shiftitamanna to take part in this interesting challange.