"SLC-S24/W3 - Powerful Debate | Love & Arguments".

Myself @aspiya From #Bangladesh

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Greetings Wonderful Individuals

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Today I will take on the Steemit Challenge S24W3 | Powerful Debate - Love vs Arguments by @tammanna. For this discussion, I will go for Topic 2: "Who should give more importance to a child's education, the father or the mother, or should both be given equal importance?" As a mom this hits close to home even though my baby isn’t yet in school. I have always pondered this duty-balance of who-influences-whose-your-child-in-the-future especially, early on in their schooling. Is it 'just the mother' or should both parents be actively involved and share responsibility? I think about this a lot, and I believe it's the most important thing we can do for our babies to flourish and learn.

Example: "The Story of My Cousin Sister's Little One

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My sister’s baby has just begun in the magical land of education – a land filled with wonder, experiences and endless curiosity. She’s the joy of our household, always excited to learn and pass along what she learns. Like most mothers, my sister does the best she can dropping her off at school, paying for tuition, helping with her homework, taking care of other household chores.

But what is truly sad to me is her father. When his daughter arrives at his doorstep with a book in hand, hoping for a little bit of attention or aid, he dismisses her. He tells her he’s too tired, or suggests she go to her mother instead. Sometimes he even gets irritated, which hurts the child and my sister as well.

Their relationship is now under strain. My sister and her husband constantly have fights, few of which become serious fights. And it all comes down to this: imbalance in the shared responsibility.

The fact is, a child is not only the mother’s responsibility. The other side is a father’s presence. When a father neglects his child’s need for attention and care, the emotional connection starts to crumble. Today it might be a book the child walks away with; tomorrow it could be her feelings, her dreams or her problems she ceases to share.

A child needs both the mother and the father, physically, emotionally, mentally. Only then, She can develop with love, confidence and stability. Education is more than academics, education is about showing up, it is about being present, it is about supporting and building a strong family unit together.

●Among the mixed reactions of parents, is it only the mother's responsibility to educate the child? The father has no responsibility, and if the fathers avoid responsibility in this regard, So what kind of mentality can be developed towards those children?

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In so many families, I have witnessed an all-too-familiar pattern: The moment it comes to a child’s education, all is well and good until the burden suddenly and silently falls on the mother. Fathers frequently pull back, imagining that once they have helped provide financially their work is finished. But I vehemently disagree with this philosophy.

Why, among the mixed reactions of parents, is it always the mother who is expected to take care of everything that needs to be done when it comes to studies home work, tuition, parent-teacher meeting, etc. Doesn’t the father have an equal role in determining the child’s future?

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If a father shirks such a duty it has a powerful impact on the child. Children are sensitive. If they see their father could care less about their learning, they may grow up feeling that neglected or even thinking education isn’t important. Worse, they may grow up feeling emotionally detached from their father and refuse to approach him  not just for studies, but for all matters.

This causes an imbalance in the child’s psychological and emotional growth. Kids need to see mother and father engaged in that supporting, guiding, and nourishing work. That’s how confidence builds. This is how we grow a healthy, loving union.

So to me, a child’s education should never be considered as a responsibility of the mother alone. It’s a joint trip and both parents have to walk it side by side.

●Where the responsibility of the family's success lies with the father and the father has to earn an income to handle all the details of the family, due to which the father cannot give enough time to the family and his child, is it right? Or if the father cannot take the responsibility of his child's education while earning money, is it right? What do you mean by that?

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Yes, in many families the father is the breadwinner and strives hard for the financial well-being of the family. He may work from dawn to dusk, doing his best to give his family everything they deserve. This is profoundly aspiration there’s no question that it’s an important thing for a father to provide.

But I also think that being a provider isn't the only role of a father. But a child doesn’t require only food, shelter and clothes a child also requires attention, love, and emotional support, particularly when children are young and learning and growing.

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If a father is too busy making money to spend time with his child or to contribute to their education, I think that’s kind of unfair.” Education is much more than just resolving a math problem or doing a task. Sometimes all it takes is just listening to a child, encouraging them or shooting the bull for a few minutes about their school day to make a big difference.

I don’t believe the factor is how much time a father spends it’s how he spends time. Just a few minutes of focus and engagement, however, can enhance the father-child relationship and propel the child’s development.

So no, I don’t believe its right to completely remove yourself from your child’s educational path in order to make money. Both providing and parenting are very, very important. Balance is the key. A successful family is more about time spent and emotional availability than income.

●What is the most important thing in a child's education? Both parents should provide them with good education and study on time. In this case, can the child's education and progress improve? Or if the father does not pay attention to education, can the child achieve much more success in education only through the mother's education?

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From my perspective, the best part of a child’s education isn’t the well-chosen school or the best tutor it is that the parents are both there to guide and cheerlead. In such cases when the parents support the child, take care of him and set a time for him to study, it contributes significantly towards laying the strong base for the success.

If both parents act as a team (the mother is engaged in the child’s studies and the father shows interest in the child, provides encouragement and is emotionally available), the child will feel valued and confident. This equilibrium has a powerful role in the development of the child.

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But, as the father remains distant, believing that education is the mother’s business, I suppose that the child can learn but he will still lose something important. A mother can try her hardest, and she often does, even on her own. But the lack of involvement from a father might have an impact on a child’s mentality. The child can feel insignificant or emotionally empty, especially when they observe other children receiving assistance from both their parents.

So yes, a mother can successfully educate and guide her child, and many children succeed that way. But when a child’s two parents are fully engaged, the odds of success educational success, sure, but more important, of learning confidence, clear communication and strength of mind rise precipitously. An education is more than just books; it’s about feeling loomed up from all directions.

To conclude the both, the father and the mother has to be equally vested in there child education. A child needs the love, nurturing, and leadership that both a mother and a father provide to be able to grow with confidence and become a success in life. Education is parents’ right and when you get involved, the child will have a balanced growth -emotional, mental and academic.