SLC-S24/W3 - Powerful Debate | Love & Arguments

Assalamualaikum my fellows I hope you will be fine by the grace of Allah. Today I am going to participate in the steemit challenge season 24 by @tammana under the umbrella of steemit team. It is about powerful debate of love vs argument.

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In a quiet home which was brighten by the soft yellow evening lamp a little boy sits at the corner of the dining table. The textbook of the boy is opened. His fingers are tracing over a difficult sentence. His eyes are drifting towards the front door. The ears of the boy perk up at the familiar sound. This sound was of jingling keys, shoes against the tiles and the sigh of a tired father who was returning home after the work.

With hope flickering in his chest like a candle in the dark the child calls, “Papa, can you help me with this?” But the response is cold, worn, routine. “Not now. I have had a long day. Go to your mother.” The candle flickers out.

Meanwhile, in the kitchen, his mother hears the conversation. Her shoulders already heavy with the weight of the day with meals cooked, laundry folded, tuition arranged, school forms filled. She wipes her hands and walks over with a smile that tries to hide the ache in her spine. She kneels beside her child again.

This is not just one story. It is the silent rhythm playing behind thousands of doors across the world. The child may not complain but he notices. And what he notices, he learns.

Is this the kind of learning we want for our children?

Education is not just about alphabets and arithmetic. It is emotional presence. It is storytelling, correcting, encouraging, and celebrating. It is being there not just physically but mentally available and invested. When a father dismisses his role in his child’s learning. He is not just skipping a lesson he is teaching a damaging one.

Children form their worldviews not from what we say but from what we do. A boy who sees his father uninterested in education might grow up thinking it is not a father’s job. A girl raised without her father’s academic involvement might feel less worthy of male guidance or support in her own educational journey. Seeds of gender bias, emotional neglect, and silent frustration are planted this way subtly, daily, painfully.

And while society often wraps the word "provider" around the father like a badge of honor, what is provision without presence? Can school fees replace storytelling? Can new shoes replace shared laughter over a solved math problem?

The truth is mothers have carried this load with tireless grace for generations. They do it with love not obligation. But love should not be one-sided. The family is not a relay race where the father runs the first lap and hands over the baton to the mother for the rest of the race. It should be a symphony, not a solo.

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Children need two kinds of strength: the mother’s nurturing patience and the father’s steady involvement. When both parents participate in education, children don't just perform better academically. They thrive emotionally. They feel seen, supported, and safe. That is the soil where confidence, empathy, and intelligence grow.

Fathers, this is not a blame it is an invitation. Come, sit beside your child. Ask how their day was. Read a paragraph with them. Help with one equation. You don’t need to know all the answers but you just need to show up.

Because one day, that child will grow up. And when they do they will remember who was there. Not who earned more, not who bought the books but who opened them with them.

So no, it is not the mother’s duty alone but the father's responsibility as well. It is not even about sharing the burden. It is about sharing the dream of a future where your child looks back and says "Both my parents believed in me together."

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I invite @afzalqamar, @wuddi and @hudamalik02 to join this contest.