After long time

Hi Friend,
There are many times in our lives when we can't say no. It seems that if you do not say it, someone else will be upset, someone will suffer and the relationship will be ruined. So I always say yes, forgetting about my discomfort, time, and ability. But this habit gradually increases the pressure on us. We ignore our own needs, our own peace, and our own plans while always keeping everyone's word. Actually, saying no at the right time is an important skill. Because everything has a limit. No matter how hard you try, you can't always make everyone happy. If someone is angry at you for not listening or undervalues the relationship, it may not really be a relationship for your own good.

To say no is to take responsibility for yourself. Suppose someone asked you to do something that doesn't go with your principles, time, or ability, but you said yes just because of a relationship or social pressure. As a result, you might feel stressed, anxious, or depressed. There, problems could be avoided if you did not speak politely at the right time, and others could understand your own limitations. Sometimes we think that if we don't, people will think we are selfish. But in reality, those who truly respect you, respect neither you nor anyone. Rather, people make it a habit to repeatedly say yes to others by harming themselves. Once they catch on, you're always ready to take advantage of them. If they don't, they can't take it easy.

Saying no doesn't mean being rude. You can say no softly, with reason, and with respect. It also makes your opinion clear, and the relationship also does not get involved in unnecessary conflicts. Another thing is that when you don't say it at the right time, you are in control of your life. No one else can control your time, energy, or decisions. In the end, saying no at the right time is actually creating space for yourself. In this, you can do justice to yourself, reduce stress and focus on important things. This may not be uncomfortable for some people at first, but in the long run it will help maintain your mental health, self-esteem, and relationship quality. So saying no should not be considered a crime, it should be considered necessary. I wrote these things because I don't know why I can't use the word to tell myself the truth sometimes. So I am sharing it with you. Maybe you've changed, maybe you've changed! I can't say anything though!