The keyword of the week / Collision
Hello, Dear Dreamers!
My mind often feels like a constant fight. Two strong ideas clash every day. One is wanting everything to be perfect. The other is knowing perfect is too hard to find. It is a deep worry inside me. I always try to find out what my best effort truly is.
For many years, I liked being a perfectionist in my work on computer. I thought it was a good thing. A voice inside my head kept pushing me. It told me to work hard. It said to make things just right.
They said to try to give 100 % in my best way possible. It said only top standards bring real success. It said people would truly respect me then. I truly believed this strong push was my best skill. It made sure my work was good. It kept me from doing anything which is like an average work.
But then, this good thing showed its bad side. The real problem started. That same voice, once a big help, turned into a constant critic inside me. It just picked apart everything in my efforts.
Trying to be perfect stopped me from doing anything. It was not trying to be better anymore. Easy tasks became huge problems. They never got done. They could not hit that "just right" mark.
Good ideas stayed in my head. Projects never truly started. This all happened because I overthought things. I was so afraid of not being perfect.
All this thinking in my head tires me out. The need for "perfect" fights with just getting work done. Wanting every small thing perfect argues with needing to move ahead fast. This constant fight inside traps me. I feel pushed to go. But I also cannot move. My thoughts on being perfect are messy. They are mixed up.
They often do not make sense. It shows how hard and tiring this quality is. I used to praise it. It is a tough, very human thing. I try to find a balance. I want big things, but I also accept "good enough." This helps me feel free from the collision of my thoughts..
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Welcome to Dream Steem! I think we can all agree to try our best. No more, no less. Perfection would be boring anyway... ;-))
Thank you. I always wanted to give my best. But I learnt that staying balanced in work and life is a better option. We should avoid monotonicity in every part of life.
Greetings. It was a pleasure to read you.
In this life, many things depend on the perspective we give it, there is nothing perfect, it is impossible, and there is nothing imperfect, that depends on the critic.
In any case, chasing perfection will make us demand more and more from ourselves, which is good, in part, because it helps us to give more and be better, to want to improve every day, but that is where the problem comes, that same search for perfection is what leads us to feel dissatisfied with our own performance, and makes us go on and on looking for more... It is as I would say, something contrary beneficial, as long as we know how to give it that focus.
Blessings.
I like your views @wlin, which you described in detail.
For me always trying to be perfect truly held things back. It stopped me from starting anything major. This was not about getting better anymore. It became a huge problem instead. What used to be simple jobs now felt very hard.
Thanks again for replying.