"SLC-S24/W6 - Powerful Debate | Yes or no/ pros and cons".

Hello, friends welcome to my post in which I have discussed "Powerful Debate - Yes or no/pros and cons" as part of my participation in this 👉Steemit Challenge S24W6 | organized by @alexanderpeace

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Do you believe in having expectations and setting boundaries for relationships? Yes

A Real Life Story: The Story of I and. Lady

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There is this girl whom I and she had been dating for close to a year. At first, when we started our relationship newly, everything was smooth; we did call each other daily, with surprise dates and sweet texts. But things started changing between me and her when I started spending more time with her friends, often canceling at the last minute. This girl was afraid of seeming too much which she never told me it makes her feel bad or good.

One evening, after another broken plan, my girlfriend broke down. That was the turning point of our relationship. We both had a long, honest conversation where she expressed her need for consistency, and as a gentle guy, I opened up about feeling overwhelmed and needing space sometimes so I could focus on work. From that moment we created clear expectations for ourselves. I needed downtime, and she needed reliability; we then agreed on boundaries, time together, and time apart.

Now, my relationship with the girl transformed not into perfection, but into clarity of understanding that didn't just give Dave our love, but it helped to deepen her love for me and my love for her.

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B: Elaborate on the PROS (advantages) and CONS (disadvantages) of expectations and setting or not setting boundaries in relationships.

PROS (advantage) of Setting Expectations and Boundaries:

• Clarity and Communication: With expectations in a relationship, it helps partners to understand what each other values or needs, whether it is quality time, emotional support, or loyalty.

• Emotional Safety: In a relationship, boundaries help to protect one mental and emotional well-being just as it protects me and my girlfriend, which helps us to prevent our feelings of resentment, neglect, and being taken for granted.

• Strengthen Respect: It makes partners have respect for each other as both partners will feel and understood, which means the framework for mutual respect is boundaries.

• Prevents Codependency: It helps to promote individuality in a relationship where you can love your partner or someone deeply without losing yourself in the process of loving the person.

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CONS (disadvantages) of Expectations and Boundaries

• Unspoken or Unrealistic Expectations: In a relationship where expectations are too high or never communicated, the relationship or both partners would become a recipe for disappointment.

• Rigidity or Over Control: Boundaries are meant to protect partners and not restrict them. When partners turn into control it means they can breed resentment.

• Misinterpretation: Your partner or you might see boundaries as a lack of love or distance rather than seeing to preserve the relationship.

• Fear or Vulnerability: Partners find it difficult to state their needs out of fear. In some relationships, sometimes, when boundaries are set, your partner may leave, which keeps people stuck in an unhealthy dynamics relationship.

I am inviting; @dove11, @lhorgic and @ruthjoe