SLC-S24/W3 - Powerful Debate | Love & Arguments".

Hi steemians,

It is my pleasure to address this topic and I wish my suggestions and idea will suit someone out here.

Addressing this topic, Misunderstandings can happen in a marital relationship, but in that case, should the husband always be the first to say sorry or sorry, or should both of them be the first to say sorry The mistake should be admitted?

Two marriage mate are not perfect and so as imperfect human, there is tendency to offend each other and in that case, apology and forgiveness is required.

People often find pleasure when they offend others, they feel satisfied and without being remorseful but should that comes in between married couples?

Remember Forever is a very long time to live apart or to live with grudges in heart and so when misunderstanding comes between marriage mate who should apologize first?

Is this right or should the one who is at greater fault in the quarrel first admit his mistakes and apologize to his partner and try to fix the relationship?

In every quarrel, there is always a victim and if you are not careful you will fall into a deep quarrel that will end up being your fault.

There is an idoms that says; "Two wrongs cannot make a right" therefore, if you react to how you are hurt, you will end up doing something that will increase the quarrel and probably results in more first or actions that will be regretted later.

So at the end it could be that the one who even started the quarrel is not guilty than you who increased the quarrel and is at greater fault.

So what am I trying to explain in this case, the person at greater fault is not really necessary when it comes to apologising between marriage mates. Everybody is at fault, the person that started the quarrel is at fault, the person that also increased or take the quarrel to a higher length is also guilty and in this case any of them can take the initiative to apologise first.

Taking initiative to apologise keep us strong in love

So taking initiative to make peace between partners is very very necessary. And that's where humility comes in because if you are not humble you won't be able to apologise whether you are at fault or not.

Where many people think that in a fight, the husband should be the first to say sorry and their wives should be the first to resolve the conflict and mend the relationship. Do you agree with this view or do you think it is different in your case? Express your own feelings.

In this case none of the partners has the responsibility to settle conflict first the both partners has that responsibility to resolve any conflict between them.

My playmate

Personally, I don't think it is the wife's responsibility to resolve conflict or it is the husband's responsibility to apologise first when they have some misunderstanding. I feel one person should be humble enough to take the initiative to apologise first.

If I know I am guilty of a misunderstanding that happens I take initiative to apologise and my husband do the same when we have misunderstanding. We have already agreed and we make it a point of duty that we do not sleep over any conflict between us, we settle every misunderstanding before daybreak.

A simple I'm sorry do resolve issues quickly so why you linger over hope to apologise first No everyone should be willing to take initiative to apologise when you offend each other.

I also want to share my most used attitude, when my husband say something or do something that hurts me, I do not respond immediately because I know very well that whatever I say will also hurt him which will lead to quarrelling so in most cases, I do remain silent then choose to talk about that his actions later in a calm tune. I realised that on doing this he quickly see he's wrong and apologise or stop talking immediately.

We admit our mistakes and apologize to each other

However, in this case, would it be wise for both the husband and wife to admit their mistakes and apologize to each other in order to preserve their relationship, or would it be wiser to continue to maintain their egos and continue to cause unrest in the family day after day? Which do you think is right?

I can't imagine staying in the house for good 24hours without talking to my husband. He is my playmate my gossip mate, my partner in crime, my love. Our love for each other grow intense day after day so we can't stay in a quarrel for good 24 hours it has never happened.

So from my experience I will strongly say that it is wrong for a husband and wife to continue keeping malice because of a quarrel it is very harmful. The heart is treacherous and so many things can play in your heart and before you know, it becomes a reality.

So many marriages fail because of lack of humility, one person should be willing to take initiative to apologise for peace to reign.

If you don't know how to forgive don't marry, if you can't forgive don't marry, if you can't apologise do not marry, if you can't accept apology don't marry, if you can't pursue peace please do not marry. Marriage is not for the faint hearted, marriage is for grown matured heart

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Conclusion

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To maintain a healthy marriage you must be willing and ready to apologise each other, therefore a man that really loves his wife as his own body will be really to apologise to his wife on the other hand a wife that has deep respect for his husband will also be willing to apologise to his husband for peace to rain and they both will live happily and united.

I will like to invited @udylicious @ninapenda and @m-fdo to take part in this contest