SLC-S24/W1 - Tangled Emotion | The Powerful Conversation
Assalamualaikum my fellows I hope you will be fine by the grace of Allah. Today I am going to participate in the steemit challenge season 24 by @sitaraindaryas under the umbrella of steemit team. It is about the powerful debate and tangled emotions.
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Wife and husband both are the important part and you can say the key elements of this ever evolving society. Without these two pillars the building of the society cannot be formed. Sometimes there come misunderstandings between husband and wife and it leads to drastic conditions in their lives. There may be trust issues with time. It can also happen that both of them start disrespecting each other because of several reasons such as not obeying each other and not fulfilling each others desires.
Sometimes the relationship between the husband and wife starts weakening because of the third parties. The involvement of others in the decisions and talks of husband and wife causes disturbance and misunderstanding in their life and it leads towards the destruction of their beautiful life.
In your opinion, who showed greater emotional maturity during the conversation, and what made you feel that way? Was it honest, self-control, empathy, or something else.
I am a husband and I can say that the females are a way more emotional. If I am not wrong they are very delicate in understanding the worth of the things and they always try to win each arguement. In accordance with me the husband show a greater emotional maturity during the conversation between the wife and husband. The husband has experienced life outside the home as well so he is more mature and powerful in the conversation. Husband can convince the wife with his will power and soft corner of the heart.
Allah Almighty has made man the sovereign of the house so he has natural power to convince and sort out the conversations. He is naturally mature and emotionally convincing. He can control the emotions. Overall I will say that husband show greater emotional maturity in the conversation between the wife and husband rather than acting and showing the crocodile tears.
Do you believe that emotional cheating can cause as much or even deeper damage than physical cheating? Where do you think the true betrayal begins: in the heart or the body?
Cheating is really a disturbing thing in the relationship of husband and wife. Yes I believe that emotional cheating can cause as much or even deeper damage than physical cheating.
This is really a deep question. Emotional cheating hits the basics of the intimacy. It hurts the trust, connection, vulnerability in the relationship. When someone gives their emotional energy to anyone else instead of giving to the right or deserving person then it makes the partner to feel deeply replaced or ignored. Similarly when the partner gives the secrets dreams and emotional support to others instead of his/her partner then it cause destruction.
I believe that emotional cheating is directly related to the physical cheating. It all starts from the emotional cheating. When the partner becomes ripe and mature in the emotional cheating then it starts physical cheating. So according to my thinking this is all the games of emotions if you have cheated your partner emotionally then it is sure that you can cheat physically as well.
Actually the trust betrayal begins in the heart. The body follows where the heart has already stayed. Emotional detachment and misplaced love are the seeds. And the consequences of these seeds appear in the form of physical actions.
What are some subtle yet powerful signs that emotional distance is growing between partners? Can you spot these red flags before it’s too late?
There are several signs which show that the emotional distance between the partners is growing. In the society according to the experience and research here are some important signs which shows that the emotional distance between the partners is growing:
Decreased communication: The conversation between the partners is decreased and become to the surface level. The partner stop sharing the deeper thoughts and feelings. The partner stop sharing the small things of the day.
Delayed or distracted responses: If the partner seems mentally somewhere else then it is the sign of growing mental distance. The partner physical remains present but disappears mentally.
Less physical affection: The physical affection is also decreased between the partners. Small gestures such as hugs holding hands, casual touches and eye contact between the partners start fading. It can happen because of one or both the persons.
Irritation over small things: Small things which the partners used to enjoy but now those things irritate them and cause frustration.
Lack of curiosity about each other's lives: When the emotional distance starts growing then the curiosity about the life of the partner starts decreasing. They do not ask about each other.
Seeking emotional support elsewhere: The partners start finding emotional support from others such as friends and coworkers. They seek support from social media connections instead of their partner.
Feeling alone: When the emotional distance grows then the partner feels alone even when their partner is sitting next to you.
Avoiding future talk: The partners do not discuss their upcoming plans and dreams with each other.
So these are some important red flags which can be considered to identify the growing emotional distance between the partners. If we spot these points in the early stage we can overcome the destruction in the relationship otherwise real emotional betrayal will take root.
Can love truly survive a deep betrayal? What do you really need to rebuild and reconnect with broken trust?
Yes the love can survive deep betrayal but it does not survive by the accident. It survives by choice, work, and pain. When the trust is broken among the partners then the easy and innocent love dies. When we talk about rebuilding the trust then it means creating a new earned version of love. And it is not easy as it is in the first stage. It takes a lot.
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There is the need of radical honesty to rebuild and reconnect the trust. There should not be the half truths and edited versions. There is the need of bare trusty even if it hurts both. There is the need of full consistency to revive trust and love. Because trust is not built with one grand apology. It needs consistent actions over the week, months and sometimes years.
The most important point to build the trust again is to accept the betrayal instead of blaming the circumstances. They should not make it the fault of others instead of accept it by themselves. The betrayal partner should be ready to face the expressions of the hurt partner. The hurt partner should be allowed to express the anger and fear again and again. The hurt partner should also talk instead of directly moving on.
It is also necessary that both the partners should be willing to heal each other. There should be mutual willingness. If only one person is fighting to rebuild the trust then it is almost impossible. The partners should be ready to forgive each other.
The hardest part of building trust again is that both the partners have to fall in love with the current real person instead of the idealised one which it was before the betrayal. It is also seen that sometimes love after betrayal is even deeper because it is earned and chosen not just felt but on the other hand it is not easy.
If you were a marriage consultant, What advice would you give to couples in the sheath of heart break and healing?? Speak from wisdom, experience, or even personal pain.
Interesting to be a marriage consultant. If I were a marriage consultant then I must say to the couples first if all never break trust of each other. Do not hide things from each other. Always day the trust to each other to avoid doubts and problems later.
If I talk about the situation of sheath of heart break or healing then I will must say that the hurt partner should not take a sudden decision but a decision with wisdom and will power. On the other hand the betrayal should apologize on the spot to avoid the worse condition of the relationship.
If a partner has broken the heart of the other partner then if the betrayal person is loyal and still wants to carry out the relationship with the previous person then it must apologize and accept the mistake. This is sure the hurt person will not accept the apology easily because you have broken the trust of your partner so you have to try again and again till you succeed because if you don't try then your relationship will become hollow.
On the other hand the person who was cheated and whose trust was broken should forgive the betrayal and heal itself and guide the betrayal about the mistake and problem which was created because of breaking the trust.
It is possible for the couples to heal each other but it requires a lot of dedication and sacrifice for each other. Both need to work on each other and discuss the problems which led to the trust issues. They should fix instead of taking a sudden decision which will impact the lives of both the partners for the whole life.
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