SLC-S24/W1 - Tangled Emotion | The Powerful Conversation

That morning, the atmosphere in the bedroom was different. My wife woke up early and sat on the corner of the bed, tears running down her cheeks. Surprised by the sight, I rushed over and gently asked, "Why are you crying?"

In a soft voice, she told me about her dream last night. In her dream, she saw me, her husband, having an affair with another woman. The dream was so real that she woke up feeling sad and worried. She was very emotional when answering my questions at that time.

I quickly reassured her that what she saw was just a dream that meant nothing. "Don't cry, dear," I said gently, "It was just a dream. I would never betray you, I would never cheat on you." But my wife was still angry.

The sadness was still visible on her face. I came closer, hugged her tightly, and repeated my promise of faithfulness. "It was all a dream," I whispered in her ear, "It will never happen." Instantly the hug made her emotions start to subside.

I think it's normal for a woman to become overly emotional, especially when it comes to the issue of infidelity. Infidelity is a difficult act to tolerate, and the repercussions can be very painful. We don't have to look far; imagine if a wife cheated on her husband, she would feel deep sadness and disappointment.

Similarly, a woman is likely to show jealousy or emotion when she finds out her husband is close to another woman or even involved in an affair. Such emotions arise naturally as a response to the fear of loss and uncertainty in the relationship.

In my personal experience, a simple incident - where my wife only dreamt about the affair - was enough to make her feel hurt. This made me realise how important it is to take care of my wife's feelings and provide security in our relationship.

Therefore, the only way I have always tried to deal with my wife's emotions is by being honest and open. I avoid the slightest lie and endeavour to always be myself. I believe that there is nothing to cover up in a healthy relationship.

I am reminded of the old saying, "No matter how well you hide a carcass, it will smell."This proverb taught me that honesty will always come out in the end. Therefore, it is good to build a relationship on the foundation of honesty from the beginning, so that mutual trust and respect can be well maintained.

In my opinion, emotional and physical infidelity are equally painful. Both can undermine trust and destroy a relationship that has been painstakingly built. Therefore, I always try to take care of my wife's feelings wherever I am. This includes when I am at work, interacting with female students, and keeping my distance when meeting or talking to other women.

I believe that betrayal starts from the heart. When we open our hearts to others, we open the space for potential infidelity to arise. Unattended emotions can easily turn into actions that are detrimental to our relationship.

I remember once, a beautiful woman I didn't know smiled and flirted with me. Although the situation seemed trivial, I chose to ignore her. I made this decision solely to preserve my wife's feelings. We never know what would have happened if I had smiled back; perhaps it could have been the start of something unwanted.

We can recognise the signs of rain by the cloudy weather. Similarly, when the emotional distance between couples is widening, there are specific signs that we can observe. In my opinion, there are two main key signs to look out for:

• 🙆‍♂️ Lack of Attention
  Attention, no matter how small, is very important in a relationship. When attention starts to wane, it can be an indication that the emotional distance between the couple is getting worse. Try to recall what it was like when you first fell in love. At that time, we always tried to ask and contact our partner, as well as give small gifts as an expression of affection. But what happens now? Why are these things less and less common? If we no longer show attention, our relationship could be on the rocks.

• 👐 Loss of Trust
  The next sign is loss of trust. If you had a friend who had swindled your money, would you still trust them? It's the same with your partner; if you lie, then you've made your partner lose trust. Trust is an important foundation in a relationship. Therefore, avoid lying, no matter how small it is. Be honest and open, as honesty will help strengthen the emotional bond between you.

In my opinion, love cannot survive such a deep betrayal. Not even a thousand apologies and promises can make up for the betrayal that has occurred. When trust has been broken, it is difficult to restore it to its original state.

In my principles, I will never reconnect a trust that has been broken. If someone betrays me, I choose to walk away and leave those people behind. Betrayal is a deep wound, and I believe that healthy relationships should be built on honesty and mutual respect.

Marriage is like an ark on a long journey in the vastness of the ocean. On the way, we will face various challenges and powerful waves. In such a situation, the solution is not to jump off the ship, as that will only make us sink and face greater risks. Instead, we should stay on board and hold on tightly to each other.

Similarly, with marriage, we will definitely face tough times in a relationship. Therefore, Divorce is not the solution. Patience is the key to overcoming these challenges. Believe me, the storm will surely pass. In addition, it is important to get closer to God so that we are given guidance and strength in facing every test that comes. With faith and commitment, we can overcome every obstacle and strengthen our marriage bond.

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